As I reflect back on this year, there is one overpowering message that I have received loud and clear.
Language Is Power
More than anything else, words have the ability to change lives for better or worse.
With this in mind, I’d like to share with you a simple phrase that changed my life for the better.
Back in 2013, I was going through a very rough time in my life. There was all sorts of unhappy things going on. My health was deteriorating fast, one of my best friends was battling cancer, people were trying to screw me out of paying me for work I’d done and I seemed to attract a never ending stream of negative, miserable arseholes into my life.
Then one day when I was home alone, I got off the phone to one such arsehole and screamed out to the Universe “What am I doing to attract this shit?”
I had reached my breaking point and I genuinely wanted the answer so I didn’t have to put up with it any more. I collapsed on the couch and picked up my phone, ready to hide away in facebook land.
That’s when I saw the meme below. It was the very first post in my feed.
“Go 24 hours without complaining. Not even once… Then watch how your life starts changing.”
I didn’t buy the message but something inside me made me think I should try it.
and so it began…
Until I tried to stop complaining, I had no idea how much complaining I actually did. Sure, I was aware of the complaints I verbalised as a way of releasing the energy behind the numerous frustrations, however what I soon discovered is the constant complaining that was happening in my mind. Even when there was nothing to complain about, I was mentally creating scenarios in my head that could possibly happen if everything aligned just wrongly that I could complain about and then I started complaining about it as if it had happened…
My head was the arsehole!!
I’m not going to lie. This was no quick fix. It took months to stop the complaining. Even today I still catch myself every now an d then. The difference is, that I do catch myself and then shut it down. I even laugh about it as it is so ridiculous. By laughing about it, the negative energy is diffused instantly and I can continue with my day unaffected.
And did it work???
Absolutely!
I did notice a difference at the end of that first day. Things seemed lighter. It is this moment that has lead me down the path to now where I have been able to let go of almost all the negative things in my life, people, thoughts, beliefs, ect. And really take control of my life and shape a brand new destiny. One that two years ago would have seemed laughable.
The power to change is within each of us. We just have to be open to accepting the solution when it is presented to us.
I wish all of you a new year that is filled with beauty, passion, inspiration and no complaining.
Have an amazing 2016
James Cole
